Parents often come to me with their troubled stories of things that have happened related to their child at school. Challenges with teachers, principals and the overall limitations of a broken education system are common and stir a wide range of emotions.
Often the emotions take over and clarity can be lost. This can lead to a slippery slope of action steps that can actually derail the very outcomes that we are trying to achieve.
When I mentor parents I listen carefully for statements that may indicate an assumption is being made. Statements that start with “I think…”, “I bet…, and “I’m wondering if…”, are all indicators that assumptions are lurking. Heck, I even have to be aware of this in my own personal stories that I tell.
Before taking action in any situation you must be sure you have the facts. Without them, you run the risk of making a move that can affect the future relationship and ultimately the partnership with your child’s school team.
To identify if assumptions are at play, I recommend you follow these two simple steps.
- Ask yourself do you know this to be true?
- If the answer is no, then you need to either discard your thinking or seek the truth by engaging in more conversation and asking direct questions.
Completing these steps can significantly improve your chances of a successful resolution because you will be basing your decision of what next steps you will take on only truth.
So before you act you should stop, seek more information, and pause before choosing how to move forward. This will likely help prevent you from taking a wrong turn in building and maintaining partnership with your child’s school team.